In the first year alone, my marriage was dealt some devastating blows. During my separation, I sought refuge at my parent's house and went through a yoga teacher training that allowed me time for self-reflection.
My ex-husband and I have been able to work through our differences and work together in the best interest of our children. This summer will mark three years since I finalized my divorce from my husband of nearly five years. The process was expensive, painful, and in the end, one of the best decisions I ever made. But not for the reasons you may think.
Yes, I was happy to close the book on a painful chapter in my life and have an opportunity to get a fresh start. I celebrated by changing my hair color, dropping a few unwanted pounds, and starting a new job.
But what I didn't know was that along with everything else, my relationship with my husband would get a much-needed reboot as well. Today, my ex-husband and I are closer than we've ever been - literally. In fact, we live together, raise our two children together, and even try to enjoy an occasional date night when we can. You may be wondering why we went through the trouble of getting married and divorced only to end up dating again. Well, it's a long story.
I didn't go into my marriage thinking it would end in divorce; though I have to admit the odds were pretty much stacked against me. According to a study by the CDC's National Center for Health Statistics, the probability of a first marriage ending in separation or divorce within the first five years is 20%.
Not to mention, just about everyone in my family gets divorced - that is if they ever get married at all.
My maternal grandmother holds the record with three divorces to her credit. Without a first hand look at what it takes to make a marriage stick, I was left to piece together my own idea of wedded bliss.